Chapter 12
Sexy Times with Your New Body
Jasinda says:
I’m about to tell you something totally nuts. CRAZY! Like, headline worthy. I should probably even change the title of this book to reflect the craziness I’m about to lay out in this book. Let me first say, however, that it probably shouldn’t come as a shock to anyone at this point that my husband and I have A LOT of sex. We have lots of kids, we write romance, we are both super good-looking ... AMIRIGHT?! Okay, don’t answer that!
Regardless, we love each other so much and we probably look like silly, horny teenagers much of the time when we’re out in public. I’m okay with it. Our physical relationship has always been GREAT! I also tell my husband that even when I think it couldn’t get any better, I’m always surprised to find out it does. #Blessed!
As I’m trying to get my balls together to really let this out, just remember that I do write pretty graphic stuff. *Mom, please stop reading.*
So, even though we’ve always had a wonderful and successful sex life with plenty of orgasms to go around, I have to admit I never had a freaking clue where my G-spot was. Over thirty-five years old and I was starting to think my G-spot was something like the Bermuda triangle, or Santa, or the Easter bunny. Or maybe I was just born without one? Was that even possible? I can’t be the only one who has ever thought that.
Also important to point out is that Jack and I have tried nearly every possible position allowable by gravity. But no position, no search and rescue mission, and no deep dive session ever made it possible to find the darn thing. Well, guess what? As I continued to lose weight something incredible happened!
I FOUND IT!
I think the excess stomach weight had somehow made it near impossible to ever be in a positon to access it. Why am I telling you this rather personal tidbit? Well, here’s why: good health reveals all sorts of hidden treasures! Having lots of energy, muscles, and strength will only make your sex life better. Yes, I still struggle sometimes with the parts of my body that are scarred, and/or loose with skin but overall, the abilities of my body have only continued to improve. This will happen for you, too. I promise, friends.
One thing that Jack and I are always amazed by is that even after a long day, putting the kids to bed, and making time for a workout, we still have the energy, stamina, and even the need to partake in some marital time. Yes, we usually enjoy a nice glass of Cabernet first, but even after the regular stress of six kids, a farm, and this crazy publishing business and all that comes with it, we are still ready, willing, and able. It surprises us, too! I think working out with your husband will only make your marriage and sex life stronger and more enjoyable. Having a lot of good sex is even a bonus workout, if you ask me. So, don’t be afraid to get it on and get those extra bonus points for just having fun!
Jack says:
There’s been an enormous number of benefits to my increased healthiness since starting the #WilderWay. As my wife has stated several times already, both in this book and the first one, when you cut out the evil, not-food nastiness that is 80% of the products on the grocery store shelves, your body just ... works better in every way. Increased energy, strength, motivation, endurance ... and stamina.
As Jasinda said, we’ve always had intense sexual chemistry, and our sex life has always been consistently active and amazing. And then we cut out sugar and processed food-like products (notice we aren’t calling any of that stuff “food,” because it’s NOT FOOD!), and our sex life got better. Our bodies were operating more smoothly, reaching closer to peak capacity. The chemistry between us improved, our desire for each other increased, and our—ahem—performance improved.
That was phase one of Operation Hotter Wilder Sex.
Phase two happened when we increased our carb load a bit and started getting serious about strength training through bodyweight and resistance workouts—more on those from me later on. We got stronger, leaner, more powerful, and had better endurance. Guess what? Sex got EVEN BETTER! I could support my weight on my arms for longer, and because my core was stronger, certain ... errr ... movements, shall we say, were easier and could be performed for longer and more powerfully. Other-than-missionary positions were easier. My sheer physical stamina increased, and my sexual stamina—the length of time I could hold out—improved. And finally, our physical shapes were different. We both had less belly in the way, which meant the way we fit together changed ... for the better.
Once we detoxed from the poisons we were eating, and then got our metabolisms pumping and our muscles enlarging and that fat burning away, our bodies just worked better from top to bottom, inside and out. Those toxins were clogging up and slowing down everything from our brains to our bowels, metabolisms to muscle mass, sensory input to sexuality. Clear all that up, and the perfectly-designed machine that is the human body suddenly justworks. It’s amazing, honestly.
There’s another element to this other than the physical. Mentally, emotionally, psychologically, we felt better about ourselves, and I think it’s no surprise to anyone when I say that self-image and confidence are HUGE factors in sexual performance for both men and women—and if any dude says otherwise, he’s lyin’.
If you don’t feel like youlookgood, or if you just don’tfeelgood, then your sexual desire and performance will suffer. Conversely, you might find that when you shed those extra pounds and reduce your clothing sizes you discover your muscles. You start to enjoy running and working out, you feel better about how you look, and you just feel better, and so ... sex improves.
Before we started this journey, I was what you’d call skinny-fat. Looking at me, you wouldn’t have called me overweight, but the weight I did carry was all soft, doughy fat with small, weak muscles. My metabolism was clogged up and I had no drive, no motivation to move. Sound familiar? Yeah, I thought so. Then I started eating what my wife told me to eat, in the order she told me to eat it, and I suddenly had energy I needed to burn, which meant I wanted sex more and was better at it. Which meant my wife enjoyed it more, which meant she wanted it more, which meant I, in turn, wanted itevenmore, and wanted to be stronger and healthier and have more endurance and stamina so I could be even better at it ... see how it all works together?
Also, finding her G-spot was mind-blowing, for both of us. #G-spotFTW
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